Dating After 30: I’m Single & I Like It That Way

This may be hard for some people to believe but I’m 33, single, with no kids and I like it that way.  Don’t get me wrong; I do want kids one day but that day is not today.

When I was in my 20s I had created this timeline for myself, like a lot of females.  I wanted to be married with kids by the time I was 30.  At one point in life I was a little bitter that that hadn’t happened yet.  But now I am so grateful it hasn’t.  I refuse to settle for any guy just for the sake of having one.  For some reason though, people seem to think that I should have a man.  I’m not sure if it’s because of my age or what but I don’t want one.

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I just started dating, nothing serious because I still value my solitude.  Sometimes I have to rethink this dating thing because guys can be annoying.  They say females are needy but they expect you to play the part of their mother and wife.  Nah, I’m good.


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What’s really crazy is that people (mainly men) expect me to want a man.  And some even think I’ve lowered my standards because I’m getting older.  I don’t work that way.  I will say every now and then I do want male company but I like to be in control of when I get that company.  Then I go back to doing whatever it is I want, which right now is being a better me.

Lately I’ve been dealing with a lot, letting go of a lot and evolving……basically just being a boss chick.  I have goals that I want to reach that have nothing to do with a man.  I am so laser focused on doing what I need to do for me.  I’m paying off debt; next week I start a part time job in addition to my full time and freelance job, I just got a new car, I want to take multiple vacations next year, I’m going natural and don’t know what products to use, I’m trying to grow my edges back, I’m redecorating/painting my house.  None of that includes a man and I’m ok with that.  I actually like it that way.  I’ve only been in one serious long-term relationship and honestly it was a time consuming distraction.  I don’t have time to be distracted right now.  I’m being selfish with my time because I can be.


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