Can a Cheating Boyfriend/Fiancee Turn Into a Faithful Husband?

Obviously my answer to this question would be hell no!!!

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But I’m a woman and that’s the answer most women would give, at least that’s what I’d like to think.

I was having a conversation with this guy I’ve known for quite some time and he recently got married.  I was a little surprised because he was never faithful to his new wife prior to the marriage.  I asked, with #noshade, if he would be able to be faithful in the marriage being that he hadn’t been faithful to her at any point in their relationship.  This fool actually got offended.  That was a little humorous to me.

He went on to say that he didn’t have to be faithful to her because she was just the girlfriend before.  Apparently in his mind girlfriends don’t deserve fidelity.

This absolutely blew my mind.  Once it’s established that both people want to have a future with each other shouldn’t the relationship be “practice” for marriage?

I’ve talked to several guys in their early to mid 30s who are or have been married who get married mainly because of love, not knowing or thinking they can be faithful.  Since when was that excluded from marriage?  And these are guys who have witnessed their parents have long term marriages.

I hope this isn’t the mentality that is the norm because the way my crazy is set up infidelity will put a dude in the hospital.

But I know there are also females who know and are ok with being cheated on as long as the guy is discrete about it.  One guy friend told me that he and his wife went to a sex therapist because she wasn’t a sexual person.  I always was curious about how that worked because he’s very sexual.  The outcome was they agreed to give each other a “pass” once a year where the other could have a sexual encounter with someone outside of the marriage. And it was the idea of the therapist.  Clearly even that didn’t work because they’re getting a divorce now.

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I know marriage is about way more than sex but it is a big part of it.  If the sex isn’t good or non-existent it can lead to one or both people cheating either physically or emotionally.

I really want to start a conversation on this.  Comment down below.  What do you guys think?  Can a cheating boyfriend/fiancee become a faithful husband?  Would you accept your boyfriend or husband cheating?

Don’t forget to share this post!  I’d love to get a lot of opinions on this topic.

Until next time!

 

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